People who take all circumstances to heart are considered to be emotionally labile empaths in psychology.
Such people are characterized by kindness, affection, reliability, quick mood swings, and resentment. They react sharply to irritants and often act to the detriment of their own interests. They are fair, hard to perceive the negative attitude of others, vulnerable, unrestrained, painfully experiencing criticism and failure, prone to depression.
What is empathy
In psychology, empathy occupies a separate area that has not been fully explored.
The following conditions are characteristic signs of empaths:
- fear, stress, psychological and physical anxiety transmitted by other people;
- rapid fatigue in a noisy room (crowd);
- nervousness in a situation requiring the need to adapt to others;
- obsessive thoughts about the causes of emerging anxiety and sensitivity to people and circumstances;
- empathy and wholehearted assistance to a person in need.
The ability to feel life so strongly is not a disadvantage of an empath, but you still have to minimize the influence of people, since the world consists of different people and some unhealthy individuals with their panic attacks can ruin the happy and bright everyday life of a quiet dreamer by uttering just a few bad words.
Psychologists do not advise to communicate with such people. There is nothing good in this. Swallowing negative attitudes towards yourself or useless arguments about the right behavior will not help drown out the emotions that have arisen, which, in turn, tend to accumulate and irritate the body even more.
The reasons for such an emotional constitution may be heredity, the results of cruel upbringing, living conditions, as well as creative abilities.
Empathy levels
To determine how much a person is able to empathize and understand the problems of others, psychologists use tests. With an increased degree of sensitivity, it is recommended not to postpone the problem indefinitely and be sure to use this useful tool. By answering a few questions according to the method of A. Megrabyan or I. Yusupov, you can find out not only the causes of the disorders that arise, but also use the correct technique in order to exclude them from life altogether.
In psychology, there are three levels of empathy:
- Low;
- Medium;
- High.
Low empathy refers to indifferent people. Such a person, although he understands the pain of others, does not suffer from it, he lives for himself, is calm, rarely shows his tears or laughs. Low empathy is possessed by self-confident people who do not want to waste their time on empty (as it seems to them) activities; their low emotional level is confirmed by undeveloped communication skills. Any criticism of them causes unpleasant emotions, but the reaction to it lasts no more than five minutes.
The average level of empathy is observed in most people. These are good-natured interlocutors who are happy to communicate with others, regardless of status or profession. They seek to understand a person, to know him and, if necessary, to put themselves in his place. Often such people are called excellent psychologists, because next to them it is always interesting and calm. The moderate emotional background of these personalities allows you to be wary of negative people, provide support to those who are in a difficult situation and use the self-defense mechanism in time, which will not allow excessive sensitivity to show their will.
A high level of empathy is evidenced by a person’s ability to feel other people’s emotions better than their own. This ability is considered to be natural, since it is not fully explained. Few individuals have this property, which is why in psychology they are called special or highly developed empaths.
Owners of this level are able to project other people’s problems onto themselves and thereby injure their psyche. This is characterized by their generosity, sincerity and the ability to forgive insults. Often such advantages become disadvantages, especially when others use them. Such people are characterized by a mild character, changeable mood, emotional breakdowns and do not accept offensive behavior, including in relation to themselves.
Ways to deal with irritants
But in order for such a feature not to become a disadvantage and spoil the life of a kind and generous person, you need to learn how to manage your sensitivity, become your own coach and use kindness for its intended purpose, i.e. do not sacrifice yourself and protect your qualities from destroyers.
Psychologists advise getting rid of irritants by completely rejecting them, up to a change in profession or lifestyle. At the same time, it is recommended to listen to your intuition and follow it, but not to the detriment of yourself (to prevent this from happening, you need to take your time and carefully consider your plans in a calm atmosphere).
In the case when it becomes difficult to control emotions and a person feels powerless and a brewing depressive state, it is necessary for his weak psyche to declare war and begin to disciplinedly use the advice and methods of specialists.
To do this, it is recommended to adhere to the following rules:
- Keep a line and not trust a person who can speak disapprovingly (ignore, remain silent, leave if possible);
- Responding to negativity meaningfully and calmly, mentally forcing yourself not to react emotionally to it (it will help to build a mental distance and convince yourself that there will be no disposition, which means there is no need to try);
- Focus on solving the problem, not on the problem itself (it is necessary to believe that an unkind attitude attracts only all the unkind, this will help to stop wasting time on useless arguments and unnecessary painful feelings);
- Speak your opinion first of all for yourself (it helps to get rid of doubts and develops self-confidence, with such wealth, the opinion of others becomes less important);
- Give up the desire to correct people (you do not need to strive for this, it is enough to be an example without proving anything);
- Dedicate time to take care of yourself (it is recommended to direct your emotional aspirations here, because to be a worthy example, you need to look good and develop a lot).
Also, individuals who are eager to save the whole world and everyone around are advised to stick to professions that allow them to enjoy this activity to the fullest. The world needs noble doctors, sensitive educators, kind and responsible teachers, wise sentimentalist writers and many others, because kindness is always needed where it is expected.
